Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Move On MoveOn


Today I received an e-mail from MoveOn. Well, actually, I received an e-mail from MoveOn yesterday, too, and the day before that, and the day before that. Indeed, MoveOn, like some unusually persistent Jehovah’s Witness, has been knocking on my door every day for about three years now, and no matter how often I shut the door on it; or plead that I have my own church, thank you very much, it's back the next day, ringing my chimes with renewed ardor. 

I still occasionally agree to donate to one of their campaigns, or sign one of their petitions. (I even circulated one recently urging the President to cut our losses in Afghanistan, which, now that I think about it, is a little like singing folk songs to protest a gypsy moth infestation.) But more and more I sign primarily in hopes that by signing I might satisfy them for a while and buy myself some time. 
MoveOn had a great deal to do with getting Obama elected, and for that I am grateful. It proved remarkably effective in marshalling progressives and amassing the obscene resources a presidential campaign now requires. So this is not to criticize MoveOn for its successes, only its excesses, of which today’s e-mail is symptomatic. 


After quoting Margaret Mead’s assertion that real change only comes from small groups of thoughtful and committed people, MoveOn goes on to boast a membership of five million. This suggests to me that perhaps it should consider breaking up into small groups. 
But that's not what MoveOn is proposing. As if the daily imprecations to sign petitions circulated by MoveOn and its allies were not enough, it has just inaugurated a website on which all five million of its members are encouraged to compose and circulate petitions of their own.
“We'll send the most popular petitions to other MoveOn members to help build support for your cause,” say Anna, Julia, Michael, Wes, and the rest of MoveOn team, as they sign themselves. "It's easy to get started -- just click here." (A link follows that I do not intend to share.)
Considering all the petitions MoveOn has circulated, I can hardly blame it for running out of ideas of its own. But if that's the case, isn’t the better part of discretion to simply shut up and shut down for a while? Aren’t MoveOn and its imitators running the risk of wearing out us progressives as it is? Might it not be fatal to MoveOn’s efficacy in the next presidential campaign if not just Anna, Julia, Michael, Wes, and the rest of the MoveOn team send us petitions, but we start sending petitions to ourselves?
So I’ve got a petition for you: 


“We the undersigned ask that MoveOn stop with the petitions already so we can steel our loins for the battle to come.”
Where do I sign? 

Monday, May 16, 2011

Who Was Worse: Hitler or Stalin?



I am a serial subscriber to the New York Review of Books, for reasons both laudable and lamentable. First of all, reading its book reviews is as close as I’ll ever come to reading any of the important books I will eventually claim to have read. Second, reading it in public places ropes me off as a man of letters to be reckoned with. 
        Third, I get a kick out of the egghead personals in the back, and the letters that begin with something like, “Much as I appreciated the many laudatory things Milton Ravitz had to say about my book, Arbiters Schmarbiters: The Death of Negotiation in an Age of Self, I feel I must correct several of the cavils he leveled at my assertions regarding the role scotch tape has played in the decline in the rate of teenage pregnancies.”
But in fact NYRB deserves my loyalty. It is unfailingly illuminating no matter how obscure the subject, and host to a slew of fine writers. So I was startled when I opened an issue this past March and encountered a piece by Timothy Snyder that sought to answer a question -- “Who was worse: Hitler or Stalin?”* -- that I might have expected to encounter in a secondhand copy of The Guinness Book of World Records.
The answer seemed to stand or fall on the number of people each of them killed, and in what cause. But does it matter whether you kill people because you believe that blondes should inherit the earth, or that everyone should drive a tractor? If a fellow’s responsible for the death of, oh, let’s say a dozen people, it seems to me that just going by the Biblical injunction "Thou shalt not kill," it hardly matters what he had in mind: Aryan imperialism, communist industrialization, or the barking of a dog.
Recent research conducted in Soviet archives suggests that Joe was responsible for far fewer than the 20 million victims historians have cited in the past. In fact, they think compared to Adolph and his 12 million victims, Joe was a piker. Stalin’s killing sprees began well before Hitler locked and loaded, and yet, in the end. he only managed to tally six million men, women and children. Not only did Hitler outdo him two-to-one; he intended, had he won the war, to wipe out tens of millions more in Russia itself as part of an elaborate colonization scheme. And I just think he was the man to do it, too.
I do not mean to suggest by the tone of this essay that there is anything absurd about getting the numbers right. Such tallies are important, for, as Snyder says, each number represents a life. But to ask which of these thugs was worse based on their intentions or their body counts or both is absurd. It sets up a sort of bathroom scale dynamic with which to measure the murderous thugs of our day against the murderous thugs of yesteryear. “He’s bad,” we might be expected to remark as, say, Pol Pot steps off the scales at a mere 2.5 million victims, “but at least he’s no Stalin.”
I don’t think we should allow Hitler and Stalin to set the bar for future tyrants, nor to suggest that if you sincerely intend to make a better world and keep your victims down to, say, a million -- or a thousand, a hundred, a score, or a dozen -- Hades will prove any more comfortable for you than for them. 
Or are we to reckon that the retributive punishments they should receive ought to be commensurate with the number of their victims? Should we condemn them to an eternity of hellfire for the sum total of their victims or for each individual victim, with the sentences to run consecutively, assuming for the moment that there can be more than one eternity? Can even an all wise and all powerful God do such math, let alone the negligent and impotent God who perfmitted all those murders in the first place?
But what really stunned me about the article came toward the end, where Snyder rather casually mentions that – oh, by the way -- Mao Zedong murdered 30 million Chinese in his Great Leap Forward. But then he goes on to say that Mao doesn't really count because he was only following Stalin’s example. It's as though Snyder dismisses Mao as a singularly impressionable ideologue incapable of exercising his own free will, when in fact he was the free and ruthless agent of his iron will and lunatic caprices. 
If we are truly going by the numbers, Mao must be judged almost three times the monster Hitler was, and five times the monster Stalin was. Is it because he’s Chinese that he didn’t deserve more than a parenthetical mention in the NYRB, and then only as an adjunct to Stalin’s dismal achievements? Or is it because his victims were Chinese that thirty million of them don’t even enter the equation?
Who was worse? My answer is that each of them, or so I very much hope, was as bad as it gets.  

* http://www.nybooks.com/articles/archives/2011/mar/10/hitler-vs-stalin-who-killed-more/


Thursday, May 5, 2011

Sarah Silverman in the Boonies






I spent my adolescence listening to recordings by Jonathan Winters, Bob Newhart, Mort Sahl, Nichols and May, Shelley Berman, Carl Reiner and Mel Brooks. I think I internalized more of their material than anything I learned in school, with the exception, perhaps, of keeping to the right.

Comics submit themselves to a harsh and relentless test. They can’t fool themselves into thinking they have succeeded: not in the way the rest of us can. The proof of their success is in the laughter they elicit immediately, on the spot, standing alone in the spotlight. And if there's anything people are more humorless about than food, it's a bad comic.

Any other performing artist can mistake an audience’s polite or relieved applause at the end of a performance for approbation. But comedians can’t, for in the comedy clubs that have sprouted up all over America there may be such a thing as derisive laughter, but not polite laughter. Real laughter has to be grounded in the truth.

The comic arts embrace a wide variety of schools and styles: male and female; gay and straight, black and redneck; blue and born-again; blue-collar and blue-blood; slapstick and cerebral; insult and geek, ethnic and WASP, topical and day-to-day observational, to name the few I can think of at the moment. 

I saw it expand over decades of talk show viewing, watching pioneers of surrealist humor like Andy Kaufman and Albert Brooks emerge from the back-stages of such unconducive venues as the Mike Douglas and Merv Griffin shows and risk their all before audiences of housewives with the diciest material imaginable.

Fancying myself a connoisseur of standup comedy, a pretention I have cultivated for over half a century, I can’t watch even the best comics without wanting to walk over and hand up a helpful note or two to suggest a few small revisions to even their most successful routines. I know they'd really appreciate it if I showed them how a little syntactical tweaking could put some extra spin on their gags and punchlines. But, speaking of punches, I’ve never had the chutzpah.

For six months after I bought my car, Honda hooked me up to Sirius Radio for six free months, and I became so addicted to its comedy channels that I would have signed up when my free subscription ran out had my wife shared my enthusiasm. (I don’t know what it is about women, but they can be awfully prickly about standup comics, especially of the male variety. I wonder if there might be pheromones involved.) 

Anyway, one of the comedians I discovered on Sirius was Brian Reagan, a brilliant bard of boyhood, a vigilant observer of embarrassing moments, with surefire timing and a hangdog Irish-American delivery that seemed to me just about perfect, and whenever he came on I would shush my passengers and crank up the volume.

But some comedians are better heard than seen. You know how it is when you first lay eyes on the person whose disembodied voice you’ve been listening to for a long time? Isn’t it always a little jarring? NPR newscasters, for instance, never look the way I conjure them. In fact, I'm considering suing some of them for false advertising.

So maybe I should have known better than to look up Brian Reagan on YouTube. I imagined Regan as a shambling, slightly overweight young man with an expression of perpetual bewilderment. But he turns out to look more like a smug and merry frat house bully. What he says is still terrific, but it seems to me that what he does on stage sabotages his material from the get-go. He does a lot of pacing and goofy pivoting, he grins and chuckles at his own material, and his pauses, which seemed so perfect over the radio, he undermines with a lot of sweaty mugging that only serves to accentuate what comes off, in contrast to his self-deprecating material, as self satisfaction. He’d be a lot funnier if he’d lose the grins and chuckles and stand there looking as perplexed and embarrassed as the rest of us. But will he listen? Probably not.

Another fine comic I’d been following on Sirius is Jake Johannsen. When I finally laid eyes on him on the Letterman show, he did not disappoint, because the man understands what it means to stay in character. Offstage he’s kind of a tough guy, but onstage he comes off as a mild and decent man living in an almost continual state of perplexity and alarm. His off-kilter observations on everything from voting booths to Chinese food jibe completely with the jittery persona he’s adopted. (But rather than try to analyze why he succeeds, I’ll append one of his appearances on Letterman so you can judge for yourself.)

I was thinking about all this when Debbie and I went to UC Davis’s Mondavi Center a couple of weeks ago to see another of my favorite comics: Sarah Silverman. There is no one else quite like her. She’s absolutely brilliant and fearless in her ingenuous expression of the unthinking bigotry, backhanded liberalism, and ignorant fatuity that afflict a certain kind of American twenty-something.

She’s also disturbingly great looking, a quality for which I otherwise find it hard to forgive a comic. There may be such a thing as okay looking comics, but there better be something a little wrong with how they look, or they risk inspiring in their audiences not the laughter of recognition but sighs of envy and grumbles of resentment. 

Silverman first came to my notice while she was curled up on a loveseat and delivering an extended riff about her childhood as the youngest of a showbiz family troupe called the Aristocrats in the movie of the same name. She seemed at first to look back on it all with nostalgia, but as she described one after another of her family’s impossibly obscene stunts, you could see her character gradually realizing that what she had always regarded as a normal childhood was actually a horrendous barrage of nonstop, Olympian child abuse. 

You had to be there, I guess, but she just about killed me. I'd never seen anyone like her. I wondered how that warped sensibility that could elicit appalled laughter with jokes about rape and child abuse and recovered memory could issue from that elegant frame. Much of her material is like that, mischievously dragging us into forbidden territory and with her wide-eyed narcissistic persona skewering not just racism, antisemitism, sexism, lust, greed, death and body hair, but our own assumptions and unseemly obsessions.    

Her show in Davis began with her enthusiastically introducing her warm-up act, a comedienne whose name I didn’t catch, and whose face I could hardly see from the back row seats for which I had cleverly paid top dollar. I always applaud warm-up acts because I feel badly for them. The only thing worse than following someone like Silverman would be preceding her. But this woman’s riffs on her promiscuity, loneliness, and general alienation seemed to me to beg an awful lot of questions.

Maybe Silverman championed her because she reminded her of herself or something, or because she's fun on trips. Or perhaps she selected her out of no doubt subconscious narcissism, so we would look forward to her own act all the more. But the effect was to put not only her acolyte’s but her own material in doubt.

After the warm-up, Silverman came onstage and rather wearily trotted out a few of her old routines and a couple of not very strong new routines, and read from what she billed as notes toward some future routines. Then she took questions, and as her warm-up walked around the audience with a microphone, she called an admittedly disrespectful young questioner a four-letter word for the primary female reproductive organ, and then she and her warm-up exchanged a lot of cracks that basically translated to “we’re-us-and-they’re-not.” 

The last thing in the world I want to be is the guy who doesn’t just find someone unfunny but takes actual offense at anything less than the troglodytic routines of comics like Andrew Dice Clay or Lisa Lampanella. And I don’t mind at all when comics go blue, because I tend to go blue myself. But I found myself souring on Sarah Silverman. 

Maybe as she alighted in this agrestic corner of the Central Valley, she didn't think that an audience in a university town focused on agronomy would be worth her trotting out her best stuff. I still wish her well, and believe that her best stuff is yet to come, so I prefer to think she was just having an off night. But if not, Silverman betrayed a kind of contempt for her audience that suggested to me that success, which can descend on a comic’s shoulders like a wet blanket, may not be doing her act any favors.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Zoo-Doo

Spring has come, which means it's time to spend a lot of money on manure. There's chicken manure, sheep manure, cow (but apparently never bull) manure, human manure mixed in with peat, bark, and vegetable matter in various stages of decay. This weekend, my wife Debbie and I spread such stuff on what passes for our garden, located as it is in clay soil well on its way to achieving its destiny as one vast deposit of sedimentary rock. 


Back in Seattle, Debbie once got wind, so to speak, of a program run by the city zoo whereby gardeners like herself could sign up for a chance to haul away what it called Zoo-Doo: heaps of droppings from an enormous range of caged and penned animals lured to Seattle from every corner of the Earth with promises of kayaking and lattes. 


Debbie won the draw, and the following Saturday, during what was billed as Fecal Fest, we drove around to the back of Woodland Park Zoo, where we were greeted by Jeff Gage, the man in charge of the program. Seattle is populated by people who make the best of things, even their jobs, even jobs that entail the management of steaming mountains of animal dung. Dubbing himself the "Prince of Poop," the "Emperor of Excrement," the "GM of BM," the "Duke of Dung," Mr. Gage was well on his way to converting an annual $60,000 in landfill costs into a composting enterprise that would earn the zoo some $15,000 a year. A handsome young man with a relentless line of patter, he was not only a darling of environmentalists and zoologists, but of Seattle's horticulturalists as well.


As we shoveled dung into garbage bags and heaved them into the back of our car, it seemed to me that the Khalif of Kaka should have been paying us for hauling away an increment of his zoo's manure. But no, it was our privilege, and for every privilege you must pay. 


So Debbie went off to settle with him and, mid-transaction, noticed that he was also peddling plastic bottles full of Zoo-Doo effluent which he recommended applying to house plants. I could see the effluent creeping out from under a nearby mountain of exotic animal excreta and wondered how he went about bottling same, or why. Nevertheless, Debbie bought a bottle, and we drove home in a fetid miasma of decay. 


After we hauled our bags of manure around to the back yard, Debbie toted her bottle into the house. At the time we were the property and charges of two excellent dogs: a sister act of black retriever mixes we had picked up from a shelter in Bremerton and presented to our daughter on her birthday. Susie was the somewhat more autonomous and retriever-ish of the two; Ida, with her foreshortened snout and somewhat jittery manner, was a far more clingy and needy beast. But they were equally devoted to each other, and did everything in tandem. 

In our living room we had installed a large ficus tree in a capacious pot. It had done pretty well for a few years after it turned up at our door, a gift from a distant friend. But the tree had lately shown signs of dwindling. So Debbie headed right to it with her bottle of Zoo-Doo effluent. As instructed by the Duke of Dung, she poured about a cup of it around the base of the ficus, and then we both sat down to rest from our execrable toil. 


What neither of us had anticipated was what this would do to the dogs. Suddenly Ida and Suzy were standing by the pot, shivering as if in a freezing wind, hackles up, teeth chattering, each with a forefoot raised and a quivering tail pointing straight as an assegai. 


At last it occurred to us that, for all they knew, the entire Serengeti  had broken into the house and urinated on our tree. One glance at their upright ears and you could almost hear what they were hearing: the roaring of lions and leopards, the trumpeting of elephants, the whinnying of zebras, the snickering of hyenas, the bellows and rumblings of charging rhinos and stampeding wildebeests: a thundering, blaring, Jumanji invasion.


It was Ida who finally left her sister's side and came over to me with a look and a whimper that seemed to say, "There are creatures lurking in this house: enormous, fanged and great-horned beasts  ready to trample and devour us all. I know I've cried wolf before, but if you only listen to me once, if you ever loved me or trusted me at all, listen to me now! We must get out of the house!"


I had to put leashes on them and drag them from room to room before they concluded that, like the automobile and the doorbell and the postman's tread, whatever it was that had emanated from the soil of the ficus was just another of the alarming imponderables with which we seemed determined to keep them on their toes.


By the way, the ficus must have been equally alarmed or maybe just affronted, for it never did thrive. After the dogs passed away, we carted it off to the dump, where I suspect some Sultan of Slop, or Bard of Discard, or Mikado of Muck has long since turned it into mulch and sold it to a matron back in town.   

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Heavens Above

As a man gets older, he begins to ponder how he might come out if he were weighed in the balance. Will he be found wanting? And if so, does he have enough time left to make up for his sins? Although tax considerations certainly play a role, intimations of mortality among the rich account in large part for philanthropy. Roughshod titans of industry hope that by establishing a foundation they may make up for whatever crimes they committed to make all that dough in the first place. 


Lacking the funds to go that route, I wonder what I should do if the faith of our fathers turns out to be correct. After all, if I'm wrong , and when we die we don't just die and that's about it, and it turns out the faiths of old are right, I'd rather be safe than sorry. 


But before I go around being virtuous, I have a few questions I need to ask about heaven. For example, once they let you in, can they ever kick you out? I mean, let’s say you were sufficiently virtuous during your life on Earth to gain admittance to paradise, but ultimately you didn’t much like it in heaven, and you started acting up. Could they send you away? And if so, where would they send you? Back to Earth so you can be relatively virtuous again? Or to limbo, or some other kind of celestial time-out, until you promised to behave? 


Surely they wouldn't send you to hell for being annoying, or just because the other angels don't want to sit with you at dinner. I mean, wouldn't you have to be someone on the order of Satan himself to be banished to Hades (which, in any case, couldn’t have been all that hellish before he got there)? And where would they draw the line? I mean, is one moment of snarkiness enough to send you packing, or what? It seems to me that if heaven means you've got to watch what you say and love everybody and keep up with all the other goody-two-shoes who made it through the pearly gates, is the price of admission really worth the outlay?  


Just because people are virtuous doesn't make them lovable. In fact, some of the most disagreeable people I know are entirely virtuous. Is there humor in  heaven? And I don't just mean grandpa's puns or a parson's little instructive jokes but the really funny stuff. Is there doubt? I doubt it. Is there irony? What exactly would there be in heaven to be ironic about?


Maybe there's some sort of spray they apply that renders all such considerations moot. But even if you threw in 72 virgins, I'm beginning to think the only reason I might want to go to heaven is if hell were the only alternative. Besides, what use exactly are 72 virgins? Especially if they had to remain virgins? Wouldn't they turn out to be a source of unending aggravation, spending their time and all my money shopping in malls and calling for rides and talking on the phone?  

Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Schmennedy's

I am big enough to admit that I watched every episode of The Kennedys. I have great admiration for JFK, RFK, and Teddy Kennedy, but as someone currently trying to fashion a script based on an histoical subject, I didn't find its portrayal of the family beyond the pale. Nor did I see it as a political smear with rightwing overtones. 


After reading all the historians' critiques (most based on a reading of an early draft of the script), I was prepared to be appalled by the whole thing, but there were some aspects I liked, most especially Greg Kinnear's eery resemblance to JFK, Katie Holmes's Jackie impersonation (she's the first actress to catch Mrs. Kennedy's way of raising her right eyebrow when she emphasized something), Barry Pepper was a perfectly reasonable facsimile of RFK in all his choirboy earnestness if not his charisma (though in some scenes he looked more like Dennis Hopper and sounded more like Bugs Bunny). And Tom Wilkinson and Diana Hardcastle made a splendid Joe and Rose Kennedy. 


That they were entirely wasted on a terrible script should not be held against them. In fact, it seems to me the writers squandered a great opportunity with such a promising cast. Writing The Kennedys for the History Channel must have been very difficult, for the production has a nickel-and-dime feel to it worthy of that network, but they owed the Kennedy family better. 


And so did Jon Caesar, the director, who should have at least given Kinnear more guidance. The actor could have delivered a terrific performance, but his portrayal lacked JFK's veiled, dry charm, dazzling smile, and confidence in his own intelligence. Someone should have told him that JFK modeled himself on Cary Grant, and always kept up appearances. Instead, Kinnear looked rather anxious and afraid, emotions JFK never publicly betrayed even when he presumably felt them. (Only in the Cuban missile crisis scenes did Kinnear strike the right note of his exasperation and his searching intellect.) 


The show failed to show the stark contrast between the ailing private man and the vigorous public figure. The contrast should have been shocking, but Kinnear looked so miserable throughout the show that you did not see what JFK managed pulled off with his public persona. I was as shocked, years ago, to learn of all the pain he was experiencing and all the drugs he was taking, as the previous generation was by FDR's carefully concealed paralysis.


The devices with which the writers tried to lubricate the scenario were not so much scandalous as laughable. Not so much the showdown with Marilyn Monroe or the scenes of the President philandering, but certainly the scenes with Joe Kennedy, Sam Giancana, and Sinatra. Old Blue Eyes was portrayed as a mob broker with all the charisma of a wet weasel. 


It also seemed to me inconceivable that the docudrama would purport to provide a comprehensive portrait of the family and never once, as far as I could see, mention Teddy, his stepping up to sustain the family after Bobby was assassinated (just as RFK did after JFK was assassinated), his struggle for redemption after Chappaquiddick, his ambivalent run against Carter, his boozing, his rehabilitation, and his turning into one of the most effective and longest serving liberal legislators in American history. Even now, it seems, Teddy just can't get no respect.   



Thursday, April 7, 2011

O No



My wife has subscribed not just to a magazine, or any magazine, but to O magazine, whose back issues have been piling up in the guest bathroom. Of the many things she gets and I don't, O is one of the most nagging. 


It seems to me that you ought to be able to tackle the following how-to's in one article, or at least one issue: How to Inspire the Best in You, How to Live Your Best Life, How Doing What You Love Can Make You Rich, How to Hear the Hard Things, How to Silence Your Inner Critic, How to Let Yourself Get What You Want, How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About it, How to Tap into Your Inner Power,  How to Tap into What Really Motivates You, How to Become the Person You Were Meant to Be, How to Be a Star at Work, How to Learn to Speak Your Mind, How to Find Your True Calling, How to Know if You're Happy, How to Find Out How Much Money Is Enough, How to Know if Your Marriage Is Good Enough, How to Know When to Hold a Grudge, How to Know What It Takes to Make You Happy, How to Change Your Partner When You Change Yourself, and How to Learn the Hidden Benefits of Anger, Cursing and Negativity


Well, How to Learn the Hidden Benefits of Anger, Cursing and Negativity might require several issues. But it seems to me that the rest of these topics could be cumulatively addressed in no more than, say, four or five thousand words. And yet in issue after eerily humorless issue, Oprah parses them out a few at a time. 


She means to inspire her readership by her own extraordinary example, and there's no denying her accomplishments and her philanthropy (unless, of course, you share my father's view that philanthropy begins where you give away more than you can afford). And yet O feeds into our nationally crippling case of plutophilia. (Her readers were recently encouraged, for instance, to photographically tour Oprah's Hawaiian mansion, which she has designed as a "country farmhouse.") The worship of wealth and power, celebrity and well-heeled peachiness afflicts so many Americans who should, by rights, be mad as hell, but have been enticed into settling for the remotest prospect of winning the lottery or attending an Oprah taping and finding plane tickets under their seats.   


I know there are those who live and breathe uplifting self help like Oprah's. My wife and daughter spent a Saturday helping a friend move. My daughter was assigned the task of packing the friend's library, which consisted almost exclusively of self-help how-to's and inspirational anthologies. So she neatly packed up book after book about healing and growing and learning and coaching and empowering and spirituality and hormones and life stages and weight and addiction and depression and exercise and trauma and on and on, until she found a book that was titled along the lines of How to Beat Your Addiction to Self-Help Books, whereupon my daughter went on strike. 


I suppose I shouldn't be scornful, for there are lots of things I don't know how to do, like saving the environment in seven easy steps, or eating "fabulous on $40 a Week." And I won't deny that my self needs help. 


The chronic need for guidance and reassurance that O capitalizes on so profitably reminds me of the mother who was asked how often she thought you should tell your children that you love them. 


"Every night," she said, "and every morning, and every afternoon, and if you do that every day of every month of every year, and tell them they are the smartest, funniest, prettiest children in the whole wide world, they just might make it through first grade." 

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Maria Schell



Perhaps it’s the Baldinger in me, my maternal grandfather’s Swiss strain; or it’s a vestige of my paternal grandmother Eshbaugh’s German antecedents, but I have always had a thing for the Swiss/Austrian actress Maria Schell. 

I think I first fell for her when I saw her play Grushenka in The Brothers Karamazov, and again as an immigrant woman in The Hanging Tree. She had the most extraordinary eyes that gazed out from the depths of a very old soul, and one of those complicated brows that seemed capable of registering any emotion. 

The clip shows snippets of her performing as Nora in a German production of A Doll’s House. But you don’t need to know German to scroll through and observe her extraordinary range as her character turns from a vapid hausfrau into a formidable human being. Had she been a tad younger, I think she would have been the only actress who could have played Zhivago’s Lara better than Julie Christie, and that’s saying something.

After a distinguished career in Europe (she fled Austria for Switzerland during World War II), she seemed off to a promising start in Hollywood. But, with the exception of Gary Cooper, whom she admired for being at all times so “sovereign,” as she put it, she didn’t like Americans much and returned to Austria just as her career was taking off.

Her entire family was theatrical, including her brother Maximilian. A short while before her death, he produced a strange documentary about her titled My Sister Maria, in which she was filmed as she languished, penniless, in the house she grew up in. It’s available on Netflix, and because she spent her old age watching her old movies, it boasts a number of clips of her performances. Hard as it is to reconcile her luminous youth with her decrepit old age, even in her late 70s she still had that deep, empathetic gaze and sorrowing smile that captivated me when I was a child. 

Tuesday, April 5, 2011


I've been thinking a lot lately about my father, F. Champion Ward, who died four years ago at the age of 97. As of last December, he would have been one hundred years old, an age upon which my 98 year-old widowed mother is rapidly advancing. So I thought I would include in my blog this week the eulogy I wrote for his memorial service at Evergreen Woods, where my parents lived for many years. It was delivered before a gathering of his friends, and of his family, many of whom contributed to the recollection of the stories that follow. 

D A D
My brother and sister worry that if I run on too long we may hear the impatient jingling of our father’s car keys: a sound to which we became accustomed on family trips whenever we lingered at a restaurant. But my worries are rhetorical. Our father loved the English language and hated to hear it abused. “Time to lay down,” a nurse commanded him at his most feeble, a week or two before his death. “It’s lie down,” he replied. One of his pastimes was to ferret out the commonplace redundancies of everyday speech: “following after,” “first introduced,” “end result.”
A week before our father passed away, I read to him from a tribute my son Jake had written on Dad’s 85th birthday. He was so delighted by it that I decided to press on with a tribute I had written as well: all about how Abraham Lincoln had resonated with my brother and me because he bore several similarities to our father: empathy, serene intellectual self confidence, and a disarming self deprecating wit. I choked up a little as I finished, and ascribed the ensuing silence to Dad’s being equally moved.
“You know,” he said finally, raising his head from his pillow, “that’s full of an awful lot of miscellanea. You might think about tightening it up.”
All right, Pop. I’ll see what I can do.

 
Arriving in the New World around 1630, Andrew Warde took time out from founding Connecticut to beget Andrew, who begat Peter, who begat another Peter. And then that Peter begat Levi, who begat another Levi, who begat Ferdinand, who begat another Ferdinand, who begat Clarence who, with Helen Eshbaugh Ward’s assistance, begat our father, Frederick Champion.
With such a long family history in this country you might imagine that our guest rooms teemed with Ward uncles, aunts and cousins. But our branch was a twig on the family tree that the rest of the clan would have preferred to prune. Our great grandfather Ferdinand Ward was the black sheep of a minister’s family, a plausible sociopath who made a short-lived paper fortune with a pyramid scheme for which he was eventually transported to Sing Sing in 1885, leaving his wife and little boy Clarence to fend for themselves. His mother could not bear the scandal and died of an ulcer not long afterward, and when his god fearing paternal grandparents refused to take him in, Clarence was sent off to be raised by his mother’s brother.
Soon thereafter, with his insurance company under receivership, young Helen Eshbaugh’s father jumped off the Staten Island Ferry one evening, leaving his wife and children to fend for themselves. And so it was that one of F. Champion Ward’s grandfathers was a swindler, and the other a suicide. Yet with wit and irrepressible spirit, not to mention the benefit of educations at Princeton and Mount Holyoke, his parents each managed to emerge from their families’ wreckage and reinvent themselves as paragons of marital felicity and unassailable respectability.
As if determined to provide their children with everything that had gone begging in their own childhoods, they raised our father and his slightly older sister Helen in an atmosphere of such love, kindness, and security that their two children did not even know the meaning of the phrase “sibling rivalry.” Such was Dad’s devotion to his gifted and warm-hearted sister that he could never speak of her death in a plane crash in 1947 without fighting back sobs.
Nor could our mother speak of Aunt Helen without gratitude for her assistance in winning our father’s heart. Rachel Duira Baldinger saw in our father the effervescent antidote to the dreariness of her own upbringing in her father’s parsonages. But she would have to fight long and hard, for in addition to her ruthless rivals who contrived to lure him into matrimony by, say, memorizing his favorite sonnets, she also had to contend with Dad’s own cerebral detachment.
Our father ascribed his abstraction to observing how his father suffered by fretting over things beyond his control. But Helen has found evidence in our grandmother’s journal that as early as the age of three Dad was already a contemplative. "You are a great boy at reasoning things out,” Grandma wrote, “and quite logical in your conclusions, though of course you are led in strange channels many times. You asked how God stayed up in heaven, and then I heard you say to yourself, 'I s'pose he's hanged there.' On seeing the crescent moon the other night you demanded to know where the rest of the moon was. Already your mother is afraid of your questions!" And so, Helen points out, were his children, who hoped that by nodding sagely at his mention of Schopenhauer or Mozambique we might avoid revealing how little we knew.
Though he pored over Santayana, pondered Whitehead, revered Plato, woe betide anyone who tried to pin down his own philosophy. He was an empiricist, I suppose; and, if his impatience with his children’s “beefing,” as he called it, is any indication, something of a stoic. But I think he studied philosophy more as a mental exercise than a search for some all encompassing Meaning of Life: a way to sharpen the blade of his wits and doubts before going forth to battle the ignorant armies of certitude and preconception. In that most ideological of centuries, he rejected dogma and taught his children, by example, to favor the evidence of our eyes and ears over the findings of even the most exalted panels of experts.
Though Professor Clarence Ward of the Oberlin College Art Department was also a Congregational lay minister, religion never took with his son. F. Champion Ward put his faith in doubt. He encouraged us always to think twice about whatever it was we liked to think. Any theory made him wary, and he pronounced the word itself with withering disdain: describing, say, some glib ideologue he had encountered in his travels as “You know, one of those fellas with a thee-eery.” He never espoused beliefs, exactly. To him, beliefs were merely opinions that had moved, for their own protection, into a gated community.
He may have lacked religious faith, but God knows he had his scruples. He demanded straight shooting of all of us. Indeed he was almost ostentatiously honest, or so the rest of us thought as he agonized over our restaurant bills when we traveled overseas on the Ford Foundation’s dime, or refused to park his car in the drugstore parking lot when he visited the drycleaner next door. But what kept his scrupulousness from weighing too heavily on his children’s shoulders was the distinction he always made between what was moral and what was merely moralistic. For him honesty was a positive virtue; the closer you got to the truth, he seemed to promise us, the bluer the sky and the brighter the sun.
Dad was an athlete, a baseball fan, a gifted pool player, a raconteur. Nevertheless his professors mistook this scrawny, bespectacled young egghead for an acolyte, and urged him to live a life of abstinent scholarship. Dad might have made the same mistake, for there were times during their courtship when our mother counted herself lucky just to get his attention, let alone win his affection. She remembers pretending to share his disappointment over failing by a hair to obtain a Rhodes Scholarship, which, had it gone his way, would have meant a prolonged and possibly terminal separation. But such was her determination, and her beauty, and her equivalent integrity and intellect, that she prevailed, for which her three children and their descendants are inexpressibly grateful. In fact, our mother so purged our father of his incipient monkishness that Dad would remark to Geoff that family was all; everything else was “a sideshow.”
But what a sideshow. Assembling his curriculum vitae, we were staggered by all the great things our father had accomplished between his four-minute egg and “Hi, Dui, I’m home.” For his children, his occupation was something of a mystery. We knew from all our mother told us that without his labors the world would cease to rotate, but why, exactly, was not always clear. We knew it had something to do with higher education, but we had a hard time reconciling higher education with the lower education we were receiving at school. Nor could we make heads or tails of the mimeographed memos, memoranda, syllabi, ultimata and manifesti he brought home as college dean. All we could do was flip them over and draw on them. In the family archives I once came upon an urgent memo from Milton Singer, on the back of which my brother had sketched our father reading the Chicago Sun Times, and captioned it “A talkative evening with Dad.” Mom likes to say of my sister’s arrival during that same period of engulfing deanly duties that Helen “was born apologetically during a meeting of the Committee on Policy and Personnel.”
Neither of his sons inherited Dad’s early bird traits. But his daughter did. The two of them shared much the same metabolism, and it was her privilege to join him at breakfast while Geoff and I had to rely for the most part on less frequent late night sessions over bowls of ice cream. Dad never treated his youngest child and only daughter with condescension. Even when she was tiny, he seemed to hang on her every word, thereby bestowing upon this soul mate he had presciently named after his beloved late sister all the intellectual self confidence she would need to make her way in the world.

None of us shared our father’s love of sports, however. For that he would have to wait for his grandsons. Maybe we could not jibe the Olympian brilliance Mom ascribed to him with his enthusiasm for watching a lot of grown men run around with balls. But he was no sedentary fan. His love of sports extended beyond the couch to baseball diamonds, golf courses, ping pong tables, and most especially tennis courts.
I tried to rise to his tennis game. After he defeated me six-love, six-three, six-love, I spent eight weeks at summer camp toiling on its clay courts, making my way from next-to-last seed to the senior semi finals, for which I won a cup for most improved. Moved by my dedication and proud of my accomplishment, Dad eagerly led me out onto the court and beat me six-love, six-three, six-love.
Unless you count his will to prevail, and I don’t, sports didn’t necessarily bring out our father’s most admirable qualities. As Geoff reminded me, he would never throw a game, not even to a toddler. His humor seemed to recede in competition, and he was not above engaging in little psychological ploys like following up his best shots at tennis or pool or ping pong by exclaiming, in ostensible self disgust, “Oh, no. That’s not what I meant to do at all.” Well into his eighties, he could reduce grandsons and even tennis pros to tears of frustration and exhaustion with his nasty old man’s game, slicing the ball into a capricious, net-nicking whir.
He was no less formidable at pool, which he played up to about a month before his death. I had the misfortune of playing him in his last game of eight ball, by which time he could hardly stand, barely see, nor remember exactly which balls to sink. By now, playing my father in a game of anything had become a lose/lose situation, because if there is anything worse than losing to an old blind man, it’s beating an old blind man. I needn’t have worried about the latter, however, for as I contrived to sink the five ball into a corner pocket, I managed somehow to tip the eight-ball into a side pocket. Thus, as if by divine intervention, Dad won his very last game.
Our father did not take instruction well. A ferocious guardian of his own autonomy, he met assistance with stubborn resistance. It was not just as an old man that he refused the helping hand. He shook it off all his life. He second-guessed prescriptions and driving directions, misread phone books and train schedules, distrusted waiters, refused the services of bellboys and nurses, and never cracked an instruction manual if he could help it. He once said that his idea of hell was a guided tour.
He didn’t like to be driven anywhere, either. Geoff remembers that while we were living in New Delhi, Dad ordered a Vespa motor scooter so he could liberate himself from the services of a Ford Foundation driver. We all stood around in the backyard while Dad revved up the little scooter for the first time. As he lurched forward, we suggested that he not drive his new Vespa into the neighbor’s swing set, whereupon he jutted his chin, furrowed his brow, and drove his new Vespa into the neighbors’ swing set.
Refusing my offer of help with his hearing aid, he once told me that he’d rather make his own mistakes than subordinate himself to somebody else’s competence. That somebody else was most often my mother, of course, for whom watching our father try to operate anything more complicated than a soup spoon became an excruciating spectator sport. “But that’s not the way it goes, Champ,” she would eventually blurt from the stands as he endeavored to tighten a screw with a vigorous counterclockwise twist of a steak knife. “Dui,” he’d reply, “don’t you have something to do?” The only time I ever suspected that my parents might be going through a rough patch was the Christmas my mother gave him a chain saw.
It may sound strange to say about so deep a thinker and gifted an athlete as our father, but he had a fundamental problem with cause and effect. Maybe none of the philosophers he studied ever stooped to explain it, for throughout his life the practicalities remained as mysterious, capricious and precarious as God hanging from the heavens by a string.
There was the time he decided to defy the directions for gradually rolling out a new piece of linoleum for a closet floor and gluing it down a little at a time. Instead he decided he would turn it upside down, cover the entire underside with glue, then crawl under it and lift it up. As both ends rolled back not only onto themselves but our father, he blindly staggered into the closet and tried to flip the linoleum over and lay it down all at once. By the time he was done, the wall and our father were covered with glue, as was the top side of the linoleum itself, which set forever bubbled and askew. He once summoned me over to his car to complain that no matter how vigorously he worked the car radio’s on/off switch, it not only kept playing, but at the same volume, until I pointed out that what he was hearing was not the car radio but the transistor radio in his breast pocket.
My own favorite episode involved a trip he took to California years ago. Renting a powder-blue Ford in San Francisco, he drove Mom down to Cambria on the central coast to attend my in-laws' 50th wedding anniversary. After settling into their motel, he returned to the car to find that the key wouldn’t turn in the door lock. Indignant, he called the rental company, which sent an agent down from San Luis Obispo. An hour later, the agent arrived, sized up the situation, and pointed out that the key in question was to Dad’s own car back home; the rental car key worked perfectly. Tipping the man handsomely, our father drove Mom to the party that evening, then back to the motel, and the next morning decided he would wash the car for the scenic return drive to San Francisco. So he filled one of those cardboard ice buckets with water and a dollop of shampoo, and went to work on the car with a fistful of motel Kleenex. After scrubbing the exterior to a spotless shine, he took out his key to open the car and clean the interior when, once again, the key – the rental car key this time -- wouldn’t turn. “God damn it,” he told himself, “I was right.”
But as he was marching back to his motel room to give the rental agency a piece of his mind, a woman in a bathrobe and curlers emerged from the room next door. “Excuse me, sir,” she said, “but my husband and I just want to thank you so much for washing our car.”
Of course, we would not have known half these stories if he hadn’t told them on himself. I once published an essay about his misadventures with the physical world. Though he took it manfully, he once insisted that I had exaggerated his floundering for comic effect. At the time he said this, he was moving a couple of sprinklers around the yard, and after waiting for the spray from one of them to swing to one side, he rushed to the spigot to turn it off. Unfortunately, it was the spigot to the other hose, and after the wand of water arced back and swept over him, he stood there dripping wet and said, “Well, maybe you’re onto something, after all.”
One afternoon, after heatedly rejecting my wife’s assistance with some gadget, he finally set it down before him and remarked, with sly charm, “and tomorrow I’m going to take up brain surgery.” His self deprecating sense of humor derived from his ability to see things from the other guy’s point of view. A few months ago, Helen and I sat with Mom and Dad bemoaning the fact that no matter how many conditions you might lay down as your teenaged children head out the door with their pals, you really have no way of knowing what they’re actually going to do. I cited the case of a party we allowed our son to attend on condition his friend’s parents would be there, only to learn long afterward that the parents had been drunk. After his sister’s death and my brother’s polio, Dad had come to regard children as “hostages to fortune,” and I thought he might say something sage along those lines. But he just sat there in his bathrobe staring straight ahead and gaping. I remember thinking, Well, the Old Man didn’t hear me, or he didn’t get it: either way... But then, after a long pause, he finally piped up. “You know,” he said, “I’d drink too if I had a house full of teenagers.”
Dad’s empathy was deep-seated. I wondered if it derived in part from the eight years he spent as the pupil of an Oberlin tutor named Hand, a woman of dramatic physical impairments who staggered when she walked and drooled as she slurred and stammered her way through her lessons. But Helen has again found evidence that it was deeper seated still. "You are a thoughtful little man in many ways,” wrote his mother when Dad was only three. On Christmas day, 1914, his Grandmother Otis had come down with the grippe but nevertheless descended the stairs to lie on the couch and watch little Champ open his presents. “You were so kind,” his mother, “and took everything straight to her as soon as you opened it, and it was sweet to see you think of her and show her each gift."
Though his parents could be clannish, our father was not. He welcomed every newcomer warmly, and took equitable interest in all their sundry occupations. After Helen introduced my brother-in-law Allen to him, our father would call Helen to say how impressed he was by him, or call Allen himself just to catch up on all his projects. We cherished Dad’s affection all the more for the way he garnished it with his shrewd humor. Four years ago, he wrote to his Jewish son-in-law that I had just determined that sometime in the not-too-distant past my mother Rachel Duira Baldinger’s Swiss-German forebears had been Jews. “A call from Andy in Switzerland makes it likely that the Baldingers were not only Swiss but Jewish,” he wrote Allen. “So, you thought you'd married a shiksa? So did I. Rachel sends her love with mine.”
Finally there was the matter of our father’s humility. In the summer of 1968, Dad and I were having lunch in a diner where they were showing coverage of the recent assassination of Bobby Kennedy, whom our father greatly admired. A large, dyspeptic man seated a few stools down began loudly to declare that shooting RFK’s assassin would be too good for him. Suddenly my Dad turned on the man and told him that that was exactly the kind of thinking that had killed Martin Luther King and the Kennedy’s in the first place. Chastened, the man withdrew into sullen silence. As we returned to the car, I expressed my respect for what Dad had said. But he was already thinking twice about it. “The poor man obviously loved Robert Kennedy,” he said, shaking his head. “He didn’t need someone like me making him feel worse.”
Now there may have been a hint of false modesty in this, I suppose, or simple discomfort with my praise. But one of the costs of a faith in doubt is that things have a way of rebounding. Nothing is as simple as it seems, he taught us, because how things seem is a function of our own limitations and not of the nature of things themselves. Another consequence of raising your children in the church of doubt is that you wind up not with Indians but chiefs. Let one Ward propose an agenda and the rest of us will first praise its general concept but in the name of efficiency, economy, or sparing someone’s feelings, suggest various contradictory alterations, until all that is left of the original proposal are its cold and eviscerated remains. This was as true of Dad’s proposals as anyone else’s, and there were times when he tried to cut through his progeny’s entangling bright ideas by climbing into the car, turning the key in the ignition, and calling out, “Anybody wants to come with me better get in the car now.”
  It is no accident, however, that his daughter, who of all of us has walked most closely in our father’s footsteps, has spent her life arming herself with hard-won facts to battle the bigotries and moralistic fatuities on which this country has based its treatment of the dispossessed; nor that one underlying purpose of his two sons’ books has been to demonstrate that the past was at least as complex as the present and our ancestors as moral and intelligent and complicated as ourselves. But the most far reaching legacy of our father’s sweetness and his joyful devotion to his wife and children has been the steady, felicitous flowering of our limb of the Ward family tree.
Many of you probably heard the jingle of our father’s keys some time ago. So I’ll close with proof that there was nothing false about our father’s kindness, nor his humility. It comes in the form of a note we think he must have tucked into my mother’s desk just after he agreed to move down to the Health Center to relieve my mother of the burden of his care. But Mom didn’t come upon it until after his death a few weeks later.
Almost entirely blind, our father had taken to writing with a large-tipped magic marker. But by now he could barely make out even its broad strokes. So the note is in a wavering, wayward hand, with here and there a letter missing or a word crossed out. But this is what it says, and here is how his children would like to close:
“Dearest,” it said, “if something dire proves me mortal, I hope you’ll tell friends and family members how much I care for them, and how proud I’ve been to know them. Champ.”